On the Baha'i Attitude Toward Sex Is Refreshing: The faith God always intended for me

Old posts still draw visitors. Below is a comment made just yesterday to a post that originally appeared in October of 2009. 
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Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "On Premarital Sex: What is a relationship?":

I find it refreshing....

I was sexually molested for many years, did lose my virginity willingly at 19, married and had a child then divorced. Shortly after in a sexual monogamous relationship which ended within two years. Chose celebacy for two years and again in a sexual monogamous relationship for 5 years, married and it ended within 2 days. I chose chastity over sex being through much and having a teenager who deserved to not be confused the men I chose to bring into our lives.

I worked for a couple of years with someone. We had so many of the same beliefs morally, ethically and spiritually. He would become my dearest and truest friend....It would be several years after it was obvious how deeply connected we were before he told me he was a Baha'i. I did not know what a Baha'i was, but when he explained it everything fell into place. The subtle kiss on the cheek or forehead or peck on the lips. There was no pressure. We spent those years prior to that revelation enjoying tremendously long talks, cooking meals, watching movies, spending days and nights on the beach, and discovering each other. We like each other and when I look at him and how wonderful he is spiritually, mentally and physically, I want to be that for him. He is the reflection in the mirror. That is true intimacy, and it is undeniable.

I have studied the Baha'i Faith the past couple of years. I had always been intrigued with religions. I have discovered that in my heart I have always been a baha'i and this coming Naw Ruz I will officially declare it so! I have finally found the one God had always intended for me and the faith I had only known in my dreams!!

Best wishes to you ladies and enjoy the journey!

Posted by Anonymous to Baha'i Views at 4:13 PM

The original post also appeared on my Posterous site:

On a famous painting ... Klee's "The Kiss" was featured as the visual in my original post. It was shortly after the post appeared that I was in the home of a seeker where I took the picture below. The seeker and his partner are now Baha'is and their whole family participates in the core activities of the institute process. And, yes, that is little Gilmar, at age one. Now he is three. -gw

On They Lived in Salishan: Darachan and Kiri

One of the most enjoyable aspects of the Martin Luther King Day potluck at Tim and Deb's was visiting with Baha'i friends we hadn't seen in a long time. I was especially thrilled to see Darachan and her son Kiri. I met Darachan and her husband at the train station when they first arrived in Tacoma many years ago. Cambodian refugees who once lived in Camp 6 on the Thai border, they were on to careers of great service in our community. Another thing I distinctly remember was that they, too, once lived in Salishan, that neighborhood that has been so much a focus of the Baha'i institure process in our cluster.

It happened in Salishan yesterday -- Baha'i children's class -- mobile phone photo below by Lisa. -gw

On God the Sovereign: The power, names and attributes of God are eternal, ancient

 
Our Feast of Sultan was cancelled last Wednesday because of ice, but is being held this Wednesday instead. A second chance to honor God's sovereignty.Thanks, Jamie, for the set.  -gw
 
God is eternal and ancient; not a new God. His sovereignty is of old, not recent; not merely existent these five or six thousand years. This infinite universe is from everlasting. The sovereignty, power, names and attributes of God are eternal, ancient. His names presuppose creation and predicate His existence and will. We say God is creator. This name creator appears when we connote creation. We say God is the provider. This name presupposes and proves the existence of the provided. God is love. This name proves the existence of the beloved. In the same way God is mercy, God is justice, God is life, etc., etc. Therefore as God is creator, eternal and ancient, there were always creatures and subjects existing and provided for. There is no doubt that divine sovereignty is eternal. Sovereignty necessitates subjects, ministers, trustees and others subordinate to sovereignty. Could there be a king without country, subjects and armies? If we conceive of a time when there were no creatures, no servants, no subjects of divine lordship we dethrone God and predicate a time when God was not. It would be as if He had been recently appointed and man had given these names to Him. The divine sovereignty is ancient, eternal. God from everlasting was love, justice, power, creator, provider, the omniscient, the bountiful.
 
 
 

On a Life Through Age 18: Recognizing the oneness of mankind

My son asked me to share more about my personal history. So I wrote him this as a "first chapter." -gw

My earliest memory was sitting by my mother on a footstool as she read me a story. I was around 5. I always felt secure as a child. My mother gave me strength and a feeling of security. My father was one to tip-toe around a little. He was prone to profanity of all kinds and temperamental. But I felt loved by him. I was a completely planned child, the one he was going to "spoil," because he hadn't had the chance to be around my brother and sister because of World War II.
 
I was by the time I was in 6th grade, an "only child," as my brother and sister had both left for college. I developed solitary interests, had my own room and desk, wrote my first "letter to the editor" at age 12 which was published in the Chicago Tribune, did well in school, liked to do school reports some of which I still have, went to school dances, and the youth center, took square dance lessons, had girlfriends starting as early as 3rd grade.
 
I had a secure homelife in Downers Grove. My parents loved me. My dad had a good job. We took a summer vacation every summer camping for 2 weeks until I was 15, and decided I didn't want to go anymore.
 
I was confident, had no self-esteem issues. I had friends in high school who were valedictorians and salutatorians, at the top of the class, although I graduated 93rd out of a class of more than 900. My girlfriend in high school was from Argentina. Her parents had doctorates in physics and chemistry. Her brother played classical piano. I played in two folk music bands, played guitar and sang. One was in Chicago, to which I would travel by train by myself for practices. I kept journals in high school which I still have today.
 
I did demonstrate some rebellion against my father in the last two years of high school. I felt he couldn't relate to me. I "ran away" to New York City just before my high school graduation, because of school pressures and, somehow, my relationship with my father. I was there a day, then immediately hitchhiked for home, being gone for 4 or 5 days total.
 
After that my father really tried to get to know me better, although he wasn't very good with people skills. That summer he would come in my bedroom and sit down on my bed and ask me questions and encourage me to take subjects like philosophy and anthropology, "impractical" subjects for getting a job, and the opposite of what he had done in college. He wanted me to study subjects that he couldn't allow himself to study when he was young. I gave him a hard time by telling him I wouldn't go to college, but I ended up going to the University of Illinois where both Dick and Phyl attended.
 
When I arrived on campus I was immediately happy. It was just the kind of experience I was ready for. Within two months I attended my first Baha'i meeting. That began a study of the Faith that continued for two years, before I fnally became a Baha'i. I was a James Scholar with my grades for at least three semesters of college. I took a number of honors courses. I did well in college, except for college physics, the only D I ever got. Again, I had girlfriends, although I wasn't focused on having them. I attended the University Baha'i group every Friday night. I was a fixture there. I organized campus activities against the war in Vietnam. I organized a talk on campus to which my psychology professor came to present. I marched on the Pentagon in an anti-war rally in 1968 to which 200,000 other people came. I declared my Faith in Baha'u'llah shortly thereafter after a presentation on The Seven Valleys, still one of my favorite books. I participated on the Baha'i Area Youth Committee for Southern Illinois, Indiana, Kentucky and Tennessee. I traveled to meetings that were as far away as Nashville TN.
 
During the summer of my senior year I was invited to attend a Youth for One World Seminar at the Baha'i National Seminar, a week-long gathering. That is where I really solidified my faith. There I met Vernyce, whom I decided to marry. We moved to Portland, Oregon, where she was going to start school that fall. I was still a couple of courses short of having enough credits to graduate.
 
So let me stop here, to note, that growing up I was privileged and had almost demands put upon me except to go to school. I experienced no hardship, no poverty. And I had no siblings close in age with whom I had to work things out and learn from. I was never around young children. My parents set the example of participation in organizations, religious freethought organizations by my father, because he didn't like religion, and anti-war organizations by my mother who saw herself "working for peace." I saw myself as wanting to do my part in changing the world. I just didn't know how. My favorite magazine was the National Geographic (still is my favorite). It taught me about the oneness of mankind.  

Tacomans celebrated the oneness of mankind at the Martin Luther King Day celebration at the Tacoma Dome. -gw
 

On Overpopulation is Not the Ultimate Issue Facing Humanity: Disunity is

 
Is overpopulation the ultimate issue facing humanity? No.  Disunity is. When mankind sees its spiritual unity, we will see a global civilization develop so stupendous, that we cannot even imagine it now. When I was young, overpopulation was a far more critical problem than it is now. In so many countries of the world today, a negative birth rate is actually a problem -- the solution for which is making immigration from more populous countries of the world more possible, through elimination of legal barriers.
 
Countries like Japan have an aging population. To keep the machines of industry running, will the leaders of government in these countries with a negative birth rate further open their borders to immigrants (who will then become a permanent part of the population and, not incidently, also change the national culture)?  The answer is -- yes.
 
There is no reason to wring our hands with the thought that humanity's annihilation is inevitable. Peace is inevitable. The unification of mankind is happening before our eyes. It's not always pretty -- there are those who stand in the way, but they are, sooner or later, mowed down by God-born forces that proceed mysteriously in the world. Change is inevitable, and there is a direction to it.  Our future is bright. -gw
 
 

On They Had Snow, So Did We: They have JYSEP, we do, too

 
Last night I attended a junior youth gathering at the home of a good friend of mine. The Baha'i junior youth program is open to youth between the age of 12 and 15, and is intended to give this special age group the space and opportunity to develop their power of expression and articulation in a supportive environment. There is an emphasis on social justice and community service, and the participants often take part in activities that are of service to the community.

The group that I joined last night begin every Friday session by cooking supper and then enjoying a meal together. Last night we made a big pot of apple and vegetable soup and sandwiches. The group is composed of two islanders, a young woman from Yemen, three from Taiwan, one from The Philippines, one from South Korea, one from Kuwait and one from Vietnam. All together in the kitchen, some of us chopping, some of us washing vegetables, some of us stirring at the stove, some of us setting the table, we are a rainbow of cultures and backgrounds--a miracle really that we are all working together with joy and laughter and few disagreements or misunderstandings. Sitting around the table enjoying our steaming bowls of soup, the room filled with jokes and laughter. With so much in the news about disunity and prejudice, watching how seamlessly the youth melted into a single group impressed me.

 
 
A lovely blog, full of the Baha'i life, by a soul who has just arrived on Prince Edward Island, Canada. We had snow this week in Tacoma, an unusual occurance. They had snow up there -- probably not unusal. They have the Junior Youth Spiritual Empowerment Program up there on PEI. We have JYSEP groups down here. It's one Baha'i world. -gw
 
 
 

On Mandolin Jazz: Nightingales of divine mysteries are filled with joy and ecstasy

Tom Brooks sounded mighty fine at the Mandolin Cafe. He showed off his new bass, a very sleek and slim version. The collection of musicians included two great guitarists, a percussion/jazz harmonica player, a sax player who has found the secret to eternal youth, a vibes player just in from New Zealand, an Aussie torch singer, the owner of Mandolin taking his turn singing at the mic, and irrepressible dancing. Glad Bonita and I went, a midweek date before a big snow and ice storm hit. -gw

O servant of Baha! Music is regarded as a praiseworthy science at the Threshold of the Almighty … By virtue of this, consider how much the art of music is admired and praised. Try, if thou canst, to use spiritual melodies, songs and tunes, and to bring the earthly music into harmony with the celestial melody. Then thou wilt notice what a great influence music hath and what heavenly joy and life it conferreth. Strike up such a melody and tune as to cause the nightingales of divine mysteries to be filled with joy and ecstasy."

'Abdu'l-Bahá, from a recently translated Tablet to an individual believer; Bahá'í Writings on Music, a compilation of the Universal House of Justice(Compilations, Lights of Guidance, p. 411 )

On Studying the Letters: Guidance for collective teaching

The Tacoma Spiritual Assembly has been devoting the first 30 minutes of its meeting to study of the Five Year Plan Messages of the Universal House of Justice. Baha'is have a new letter to study dated December 12, 2011. It was the focus for consultation among the friends gathered last Saturday and Sunday to support our current collective teaching campaign. One paragraph -- two hours of stimulating discussion, that seems to be the rule.